Aug 18, 2020
#008: "Be the mirror." This is the advice that marriage coaches Danah and DeVon offer newly married couples. It is a way of remembering that lovingly reflecting back what you see to your life partner can create a context for self-awareness and personal development. This is just one of the many gems of marriage advice shared by this dynamic couple married 16 years. In this episode, they don't hold back, sharing stories from their own personal hardships when they were "holding on by a thread" and didn't think their marriage might make it to how they've developed a coaching program to help couples move beyond the breaking point. If you're engaged and want some direct advice on what to consider before you walk down the aisle or you're married but locked in an unhappy power struggle, you'll gain at least four take-action-today "what to do better" tips from this episode. In Danah's own words, "You're going to have a better story." Download and start listening to Episode #008 of the Marriage is Hard podcast.
DeVon and Danah Artis are marriage coaches with Legacy Impact Coaching. Masters in teaching communication, this power couple believes that family was the first, and is the most important, organization we lead. Therefore, we need to be taught how to properly manage our family organization so that the cycle of broken homes can stop.
With sixteen years of marriage experience under their belt, and two children, these two know firsthand the struggles of managing marriage, children, and a career. Their practical teachings help people move from hopeless to happy. This duo has helped married couples in crisis, throughout the world, restore and rebuild their marriages through their Couple-to-Couple Coaching program. They believe any marriage can be restored if both partners are willing to do whatever it takes to make it work.
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Websites, Ideas and Resources Mentioned
DeVon and Danah’s Top Recs for Building Your Marriage Support Library
Covenant Marriage by Gary Chapman
Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend
Why Marriages Succeed or Fail by Dr. John Gottman
How to Get in Touch With Legacy Impact Coaching:
Special for the Marriage is Hard listeners, Legacy Impact Coaches, Danah and DeVon, are offering a complimentary Couple-to-Couple Discovery Session. In this session, you will assess your problem areas and they will provide a strategy to get your marriage back on track.
*Just a quick note, I (Tanner) don’t have a financial relationship with Legacy Impact Coaching and am not an affiliate. This offer is a special bonus to Marriage is Hard listeners because Danah and DeVon are amazing and on a personal mission to support adult humans with the most important relationship they get to choose!
Research Recap Studies
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